Thursday, August 6, 2009

Work at making your spouse your very best friend in the whole world.

This is my beloved, and this is my friend (Song. 5:16)

“I Take Thee . . . To Be My Lawfully Wedded . . . To Love, Honor, and Cherish . . . In Sickness and in Health . . . For Richer, for Poorer . . . For Better or for Worse . . . Until Death Do Us Part . . With This Ring, I Thee Wed . . . You May Kiss The Bride . . . I Now Present Mr. And Mrs. . . .”


Eph. 5:21- 33 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Being Best Friends is More Important Than:

• Your Career . . . You won’t take that to heaven with you.
• Your Children . . . They will leave and start their own families.
• Your Father & Mother . . . Honor them, leave them, Cleave to your best friend.

Becoming Best Friends Takes Some Work:

• It takes time alone with each other on a regular basis.
• It takes learning to listen to both the spoken and unspoken things your spouse is saying to you.
• It takes complete honesty. No lies, deceit, cover ups, etc.
• It takes openness and transparency. This is only developed in an atmosphere of unconditional love.
• It takes gentleness. Sarcasm is very seldom appropriate and usually harmful.
• It takes learning to admit failure and learning how to say, “I am wrong.”
• It takes learning how to seek true forgiveness.
• It takes learning how to forgive even when you can’t forget.
• It takes learning you don’t always have to have the last say.
• It takes learning what things cause your spouse hurt and purposely avoiding to do so.
• It takes learning to “do things together” for fun, work, and ministry. Building experiences (memories) together.
• It takes learning how to laugh together.
• It takes learning how to cry together.
• It takes learning how to pray together.
• It takes learning 1000 different ways to say, “I Love You.”